We all know when we eat toxic foods or drink alcohol how we feel and most of us after effect is the same that caused physical health. Right away we want to take a break from them and stay healthy and leave those foods or beverages away from our routine for a while or forever. Similarly, toxic people are extremely dangerous and they distract us from a positive and productive habit. They constantly remind us things that we should not listen anymore or they bring all unnecessary criticism which literally destroy relationship and misguide us towards a bad relationship and make all things a big mess. Toxic people get stuck in the past and focused on the negative, and in that mentality, you can't move forward and you can't succeed. It is impossible for them to share in your joy. Toxic people can try to cling you for a long time, sometimes for years. They can make you feel guilty for everything and blame for all bad things that caused because of you though it wasn't really.
If you want to know more about toxic people to be careful in advance or that you are already experiencing you may find 6 types of toxic people for all time. The energy drainer; they make you tense, put you down for no reason and can't be happy for others for their good fortunes. The fake complimentor; they give you fake compliments with lack of empathy and put you in uncomfortable situations most of the time. The pessimist; they talk down to you to make feel themselves better and only care of themselves and talk to you out of your dreams. The criticizer; they don't support you in your decision and they criticize every move you make and make you feel like you can't do anything right. The manipulator; they are good pretenders and try to control everything and pretend to like you and others and eventually make decisions only for themselves. The victim; they are attention seekers and blame others for their misfortune and talk mostly about their excuses for failing.
To help you detox your relationship that you are tired of, there are ways to get rid of them and you may follow below tips to remove them from your life and live healthy.
TIP1: Identify Toxic People
You already know the types of toxic people and it is time to identify them if you are surrounded by. If they are trying to manipulate you or criticize during your absence or give you a fake compliment right in front of you and when you disappear from their face they start talking back about you. Consider the characteristics above and jot down the names of people who you think are poisonous to your life and your success.
TIP2: Establish Boundaries
The most important thing is that your life is yours and you do not want to jam your life with those toxic people and you must set a boundary and stick with it. Under a certain circumstance you still may keep a limited relationship by preventing yourself from a destruction.
TIP3: Realize When It's Done; It's Done
Very important and you do not want to get bite by a snake twice! Once you see that the relationship is not working and it leads you towards a very complicated way and even making it worse it's time to stop there and say good bye. Toxic people will come back to you if you let them in, so when you decide to say good bye, make sure your are ready to make it permanent. If the toxic person is closest, then be sure that you don't want to meet them often and make it occasional.
TIP4: Surround Yourself With The Right People
It's never easy to get rid of toxic people so you need to surround yourself with the right people. They always lift you up during your bad times and share moments with you during their good times and give a positive vibe no matter what situation it is. You are whom you surround yourself with and if your core values and goals are not aligned, it just causes dysfunction, chaos and keeps the most unhealthy relationships in your life.
TIP5: Focus On Quality Relationship
And to avoid toxic people you must focus on unconditional quality relationship. Quality has nothing to do with frequency of contact and time spent. The quality is always over quantity and a quality relationship does not encourage you to meet often and it's not established on the number you meet people but on the base that never discourage you in any kind of circumstances.
Relationships are the key to your happiness and success both in life and career. Be sure to invest in the healthy and supportive relationship that lift you up, encourage, and never put you down. It is just as important to know when to eliminate your investment to avoid unhealthy relationships.
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