Perhaps this is very common to disagree and sometimes, it is very hard to agree with people and their opinions. When it becomes harder to agree with something we start argue with each other no matter whoever the person is. We become unfair with choosing words, lose control on emotion, forget to compromise and stay unchanged with our opinion and make the situation even worse. This article discusses how to disagree politely and agreeably focusing on the best ways to compromise, clear the air, and fight fair.
Engagement with the topic
If you are not engaging with the topic deeply or giving opinion without understanding the fact, there will always be a problem. Argument will arise and disagreement is for sure. Remember these to avoid unproductive argument;
Understand the fact
Before disagreeing wait until you're calm
Be respectful with your logic
Stay away of interrogation and even don't do this by mistake
Speak to common interests
Do not try to win
Consider compromise
Say sorry to consider the fact
When you see the lucrative prospects of the topic, first say sorry and bring the pros and cons. Try to persuade instead of argument. You may say, "I am sorry but it seems it would be better to do this than that", - such things. Do not try to prove who is right and who is wrong, instead say about what is right or what is wrong. Try to prove someone wrong is very insulting and it makes the air even very uncomfortable.
Do not make it personal
Whether you are dealing with your boss, colleague or with your spouse, or with anybody else, do not make it personal. You may get upset or mad and angry, but remember to focus on the concept instead of the person or speaker. Taking things personal extremely harmful and could be very destructive.
Listen fully and stay calm
Never stop the opponent in the middle and listen them carefully. Sometimes you might be wrong or bring irrelevant issues to arise argument. It is always better to listen completely and give your opinion. When you are giving your opinion do it calmly and rightly. This is the most important thing you can do to keep the conversation alive. It might be very difficult in different situations, however, arguing without knowing the fact and true reason leads towards nowhere.
Accept, apologize, and introduce your disagreement
Do not offense and accept opposites point of view and then introduce your disagreement respectfully. This could be another way of making more polite and soften the argument. Pretend to be unsure about agreeing and say politely if you are not sure about their point of view.
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