There is a saying and also we all know this that people can't live alone. That's the only thing what people can't do and they need companies around. They need to talk with someone and cannot go for even couple of days without talking with somebody. But still people spend sometime lonely and they do not like peoples company for some moments. Well it doesn't go for long and if it goes for long then it becomes dangerous.
The deep dive of loneliness can conjure up all that you think you should have done and all that you think you are, with an opinion that is harsh and often not your own. This level of experiencing unveils beliefs that you have adopted from past experiences and can lead to depression and motivate unsolicited reactivity.
On the other hand, the solitude of loneliness brings the gift of self-acceptance, as long as you don't consider loneliness as weak, feeble or pathetic. Instead you take it as a power of challenging yourself and work on things out that you need to. Once you know the power of loneliness you will spend more time alone than spending useless hours with other people. When we sink into loneliness and allow it to do its redemptive work by embracing it, it can be a powerful teacher. It is not only tolerable but it is even fruitful too. Why? Because it is the only time when you think of your capabilities, your weakness, and your strengths. You plan to execute process and really execute them better.
It is the only time when you think a lot of things and new idea borns. This is the time to become happy alone. To love yourself, to think about your family, to think about your future. Regardless of how you feel about being alone, building a good relationship with yourself is a worthy investment. After all, you do spend quite a bit of time with yourself, so you might as well learn to enjoy it.
You become productive when you literally work alone. You get more space to think and work on your purpose. As Paulo Coelho said, "Loneliness, when accepted, becomes a gift that will lead us to find purpose in life." And it is true indeed and I bet you think better when you are alone. There are no interruptions and distractions at all when you decide and accept loneliness.
But you should know and do not misunderstand that being alone and being loneliness is not the same. May be you are a person who absolutely basks in solitude. You are not anti-social, you are not friendless or loveless. You are just quite content with alone time. In fact, you look forward to it and that is simply being alone, not being lonely. On the contrary, may be you are surrounded by family and friends but not really relating beyond a surface level, which has you feeling rather empty and disconnected or maybe being alone just leaves you sad and longing for company.
The best way to enjoy loneliness is to disconnect you from all the belongings and give yourself a perfect time to discover yourself. You may stay away of social media and social media is a major reason of being negative and stay un productive. This media spreads of all useless news where anybody can criticize on anything and anyone. The feed you see does not provide or tell the whole story. You have no idea those people are truly happy or giving the impression that they are.
Loneliness arises to remind you that there are discoveries about yourself that you have yet to make. This is a precious moment for self examination for turning your keen sense of absence into insight. The circumstances causing your loneliness can vary and so the questions you ask yourself and the practices for insight will be different each time you feel lonely.
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